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CathyA
Advanced Member
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 Posted - Oct 17 2009 : 6:59:51 PM
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I'm 59 and my hair is totally white. I began getting grey hairs when I was in my early 30's. but it looked good. It sparkled in my light brown hair. It was really grey/white in my late 40's.
I had my kids when I was 37 and 39 and I've been mistaken for their grandma many times. I don't like looking so old, but feel that's what nature dealt me, so I'll live with it. |
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Molly2
Senior Member
USA
772 Posts |
Posted - Oct 18 2009 : 08:15:03 AM
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Upon reflection, I don't think that grey hair makes us look old. It just makes us look our age. Or, it makes us look how we're supposed to look.
Colored hair makes us look artifically younger. |
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rose
Advanced Member
USA
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Posted - Oct 18 2009 : 08:32:19 AM
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I let my hair go at 50. Used to get it foiled and it cost a lot and took a lot of time. Then the gray was so predominant I started getting it dyed. Two weeks after I had it dyed it would be white around my face because it grows fast. Never ending battle.
I wear my hair in a bob. It is gray and whiter around my face. I get compliments on it. I've always had a young face and I still get told I don't look my age quite often.
I'm very comfortable with my gray hair. It is a catch 22. If I have blond hair and someone sees my back, then I turn around, they think "oh she's older than I thought". Now with gray hair from the back, I think they say the opposite, "oh she doesn't look old enough to have that gray hair".
I think you have to have courage to let it go gray in our society and cultural expectations. I don't mind being outside the norm. And I'm really not trying to look younger than I am. But I've reach FI and don't have to meet other's expectations in a job market. |
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frugal mighty
Senior Member
Canada
679 Posts |
Posted - Oct 18 2009 : 08:32:46 AM
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Molly2, I don't think that's always true. Some people grey prematurely. So a person in their 20s with grey hair DOES look older, regardless of their wrinkle free face and young body...grey = old.
So, as a person in the 2nd half of their lives, yes it is a natural part of aging, but for those that get greys younger what is wrong with covering it up so that they can look THEIR age and not older?
I for one, will probably colour my hair for quite some time...but will have to wait and see.
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humboldtgurl
Advanced Member
USA
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Posted - Oct 19 2009 : 2:45:49 PM
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Originally posted by HappyHiker
Just made the decision to color my hair for the last time...and need some support.
Hey me too! My roots are now over 1" long and I'm getting a little freaked out, so I'll send some support your way if you can send some this way :)
I'll really need the moral support when I go back to see my sisters in L.A. NOBODY goes gray in L.A. If they do, they dye it white blonde. I can already hear my sister's comments. Ugh.
You can do it!!! |
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HappyHiker
Advanced Member
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Posted - Oct 20 2009 : 2:30:50 PM
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You bet! You have my total and unconditional support!!
And I know what you mean about CA--I spent 30-some years there, it's pretty much unnatural to go natural there--except maybe in Berkeley lol. And one of my dear friends here in NC is a former hairdresser from So. CA who's in her early 50's, a bottle blonde and who is strongly opposed to gray hair, so I know I'll catch some flack from her...I must be strong!!
But I do have 4-5 other friends who are all natural and whose opinions I value, too. But then it's not about other people's values and quirks, is it? It's a very personal decision we're making here--to dispense with the artifice and be true to our core values. And for me, maybe hardest of all, to accept my mantle of years gracefully...
May I call you stripe?? hee hee, the evil me chortles! Hope you have a sense of humor...I suspect you do!!
Now to come up with a snappy retort for those who will say our silver/gray/salt 'n pepper hair makes us look older. I'm thinking of saying "older than what?"
Anyone else have a good response that doesn't put us on the defensive??
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humboldtgurl
Advanced Member
USA
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Posted - Oct 20 2009 : 3:11:35 PM
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Originally posted by HappyHiker
It's a very personal decision we're making here--to dispense with the artifice and be true to our core values.
Isn't it funny how it IS such a personal decision but everyone we know has an opinion about it?
What is giving me the courage to do this at my age is that I have another friend my age who has never dyed her hair and it's salt and pepper, and she looks fabulous. If mine can look half as good as hers does I'd be happy.
As far as quips...gosh I'm not nearly that witty!!! I'll try to think of some though. |
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jlroussin
New Member
USA
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Posted - Oct 23 2009 : 11:55:11 AM
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| I'm really blessed in that I'm 48 and have almost no gray hair. My natural hair color is a reddish brown. I was blond as a kid. I put sun-in on it a year and a half ago, but am letting it go back to natural since it was so drying to my hair. |
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"Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the Rest to God."
Maya Angelou
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wildwest
New Member
USA
49 Posts |
Posted - Oct 25 2009 : 08:30:30 AM
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Am I the first guy to post here? I'm kind of an old soul, always been attracted to older women. When I was 10, my "girlfriend" was 11. When I was 20, I eyed the 25-30 crowd. When I was 30, my sweetheart was 40.
Now I'm 41 and see beauty in people of all ages. I live among many retirees in their 60s and 70s, with wrinkles and gray hair, and some of the women are just gorgeous. As a child in the 1970s, I was gaga for Charlie's Angels, Wonder Woman, EmmyLou, Judy Collins. They're all past 60 now and still stunning.
Granted, many of them color their hair or tuck their tummies. But oh, I have this friend in town, a widow in her early 60s, no dye or surgery. I have a secret crush on her. Unfortunately she's uncomfortable with her age. Seems to marvel at my youth as if to wonder where hers went. If she only knew how adorable she is -- oh, my ...
I think if people want to color their hair to please themselves, that's perfectly fine. We all have our own kind of vanity. I'm not going gray yet, but I know I'll have some reaction or other when the time comes. I'm pretty sure it won't involve coloring, though. |
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krichard
Advanced Member
USA
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Posted - Oct 26 2009 : 10:04:33 AM
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| Bless your heart, wildwest...I would like to believe my greys don't negate my other assets. |
Life. Get one. |
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artbrainscan
Junior Member
68 Posts |
Posted - Oct 27 2009 : 11:08:00 AM
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| I dye my hair red. People think I'm a natural red head....I get comments All the time! And its the cheap drugstore dye. Guess it just depends on the person. |
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SarahRose
Advanced Member
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Posted - Oct 27 2009 : 11:33:35 AM
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Originally posted by artbrainscan
I dye my hair red. People think I'm a natural red head....I get comments All the time! And its the cheap drugstore dye. Guess it just depends on the person.
You say you get comments - that's different than compliments! LOL  |
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artbrainscan
Junior Member
68 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2009 : 09:54:15 AM
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| Ok comments like: oh you have such beautiful red hair. I reply: Its dyed. To which they say: Oh my I thought it was natural. Things along those lines. All comments are complimentary. Well, except when they imply I must have a temper because I am a "redhead":) |
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Tenn Gal
Senior Member
561 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2009 : 10:44:02 AM
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| I am 53 and would love to "go natural" with my hair. It is dark brown with a few golden highlights, about 20% gray. My daughter is a hairdresser and always talks me into getting the color touched up and highlights with foils. It is a time comsuming process and I am very tempted to stop it. I just wonder how to do the transition. |
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oceanfamily
Associate Member
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Posted - Oct 30 2009 : 08:11:08 AM
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Tenn Gal~ I recently talked with a friend of mine with a full head of pretty white/gray hair and she mentioned that during her transistion from colored to her natural color she had to go short in her hair length so it would make her feel better while transitioning.
You can do this:) |
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going natural with hair?
